Why are girls so mean to me?

It feels like girls are always insulting me. It goes well beyond the “teasing” that you might expect to be flirting or something. Any time I work with women or am in groups with them or whatever it feels like they are super defensive and wary of me right away and when they get to know me a little bit and see that I am just reticent and harmless they start absolutely destroying me and insulting me into oblivion.

My group partner in a lab told me recently I “look like my testosterone is 150ng/dL” (we are Bio students, that is basically female levels) and like “i’ve never even hugged a girl in my life” in a relatively serious and mean-spirited way. I had to think about it and realize afterward how unwarranted it was (because it felt normal) and how much random spitfire shit I catch from women to whom I have barely said anything. I look fine and normal but I am nowhere near masculine or attractive enough that they would think “He can take it” I don’t think.

I wonder if it has to do with that I am pretty tall and white cishet and self-assured. I definitely look like “the problem”

Anyone else have any experience with this?