I feel like I can't catch a break after extreme trauma, I'm feeling helpless

I went through some of the worst years from 2021 to now due to a major crisis that hit my family and we almost lost everything and my family as a whole has took a major decline and still struggle and barely recovered, I figured something good could turn things around after so much suffering perhaps an exceptional job, thats what I happened for a friend though she didn't nearly suffer as much as I did and nowhere near as dire of place as I have felt. my small upgrade to a slight pay increase feels very insignificant hardly makes a difference for the amount of negativity I've experience and still in a dire place. my friend on the other hand has had a huge upgrade thats unmatched to little small pay increase I've gotten, which doesn't feel like much of a upgrade as I hate exchanging my free time for money however my family needs the support. She got a role with good pay, flex start, hybrid, etc.. while I work at a terrible office space, long commute, little to no time off, and fully in office, I just find it so unfair that after all this suffering I end up suffering more in comparison to some of my other friend's roles that are exceptionally paid well and over all better. I just feel helpless why can't things be great for me at least in 1 area, like things turned around for her in a significant way. I see my friends getting upgrades from pay increases to better roles, I just feel like im not progressing to the same speed and enough of a jump. I'm afraid to make a job move because I don't want the next job to be worse or get fired being the way the job market is.