Constant bureaucracy

I am about to go fully insane from the amount of bureaucracy that everyday life requires. I know these processes are part of adult life but every single process is complicated and opaque. My car insurance company, which no long offers coverage in my situation, required me to send them a handwritten letter explaining that I no longer want the coverage that they can't offer me. My husband's immigration application, based on our marriage, ended up being well over 300 pages, when our case is pretty straightforward (no legal issues, no kids or previous marriages). Figuring out his health insurance options has required several meetings because the woman who first started helping us quit her job and they lost his file. Trying to file a change of address online with USPS tries to redirect you to special offers with their partner agency and tries to obligate you to sign up for coupons. My brain feels like mush and I haven't even started with figuring out our taxes for this year. I'm so tired of waiting in lines at government offices and setting up meetings and paying people to help figure out the various basic processes required to not piss off the government. That's all. Just tired. My mom died recently and I don't know who to talk to about these things.