Absence makes the heart grow fonder

As we age, the people around us, those who grow with us can drift apart. As an individual with a unique set of experiences, it can be depressing to see people close to us having habits or goals that go against our set of beliefs. The biggest delusion is to believe that we can change them and make them “better” The reality is otherwise. Cutting ties might sound like the best option, but it causes a negative ripple effect that may place us in a state of existential crisis.

The family that is related by blood could hurt us the most. Eliminating the pain is a tall order. However the alternative goal is to reduce the pain. The phrase “absence makes the heart grow fonder” is commonly used but hardly understood. People start to hate or dislike each other only after getting too close for comfort.

You probably never heard of people complaining about the mailman. We can only find comfort and ❤️ with our family if we make the effort to distant ourselves. It seems to be a selfish act. But it is definitely recommended for families with a falling out or individuals who have very opposite beliefs from their family.

Confrontations should also be avoided for certain relatives who we know have something against us. Even if it is obvious that they are faking nice, one should enjoy the treatment and keep a distance so that there is no feelings of burden from the other party.