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A few days ago, a reader left a message saying that he was very confused and didn't know where to go in the future. After graduating from university, his parents found him a job in his hometown. After working for some time, he found that he didn't like this kind of life at all. He wanted to change the status quo, but he thought it was too troublesome. Moreover, the life after the change was too unpredictable, and he wasn't sure enough, so he was confused.
I told him: Having so many concerns just means that your determination isn't strong enough. However, the life you want to live still has to be fought for by yourself.
He replied to me: I envy you for being financially independent. You can travel around and have fun everywhere, and usually just write articles. I want to learn writing, but I also feel that writing is very difficult. Do you think it's really that difficult?
I said: The glamorous life of others that you see with your own eyes isn't as easy to obtain as you imagine. However, if you're interested, you can try writing.
Immediately after that, he said, "Forget it then. I feel that writing articles is also so troublesome. I'd better not write."
While I felt it was a pity for him, I also thought that his confusion wasn't worthy of pity. It's normal for young people in their twenties to be confused. But while complaining about being confused and being too lazy to make changes, always only seeing the comfort of others and automatically ignoring the hardship behind that comfort, this kind of confusion is very unfavorable for one's own progress.
We all know that when people are confused, they are prone to take detours. But we all overlook one point, that is, when people are confused, it can also be the time when they make the fastest progress. The more confused you are, the harder you should live.
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In the face of confusion, some people keep saying "I'm so anxious" all day long. They are not satisfied with the current situation, want to change and want to make some efforts, but they only stay at the verbal level.
Like one of my friends, he said that he was very confused and wanted to learn something and obtain some certificates so that he could have a broader path for his career development in the future. But two years have passed, and he hasn't signed up for any exams. Every time, he finds all kinds of reasons to persuade himself to give up. Up to now, every time he sees me, he still tells me in an air of having seen through the development of the industry, "I'm so confused. I think I still need to work hard and get the certificates", while continuing to muddle along.
At first, when I heard that he wanted to work hard and change his life, I would still encourage him and ask him to keep working hard. But after seeing too many times that he wanted to change the status quo but was too lazy to work hard, I didn't know what else I could say.
There are many smart people with ideas in this world, but not many are truly outstanding. The difference among them includes the attitude towards confusion: At the moment of confusion, are you willing to take actions to change the situation?
Like this friend of mine, he clearly knows in his heart that he should make progress and work hard, but he just can't overcome his laziness to make changes, so he keeps suffering in confusion. On the contrary, those who succeed in doing things will also have moments of confusion, but they understand the principle that "the more confused you are, the harder you work, and the harder you work, the more outstanding you will be".
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In the face of confusion, there are also people whose attitude is: Defeat confusion with actions and do the things that make people "confused" and "puzzled".
A few days ago, when I was browsing Moments (WeChat Moments), I saw another friend posting her "National Second-Level Psychological Counselor" certificate. A year ago, when she chatted with me, she said that she was very confused and could never find her specialty. The current life wasn't what she wanted. She wanted to make another effort to make herself a better person and have a better life.
I said, Then start from now, invest time in learning a skill, do what you've always wanted to do in your heart, achieve it, and find ways to change this unwanted life.
A year later, she got the certificate she wanted. In the face of confusion, she could analyze the reasons and dared to take actions.
When others are faced with confusion, they may think it's a difficult situation. However, she can see the current situation of life clearly through every confusion, figure out what she wants, and then try hard to adjust herself and push her life in a better direction.
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I once read such a sentence: You can't see yourself. Only when you encounter something and it bounces back can you know what you are like. So sometimes, when life puts you in a state of contradiction or confusion, perhaps it's indirectly reminding you to take a good look at what you are like and figure out what you really want.
Feeling confused isn't necessarily a bad thing. Inner confusion indicates that you've discovered problems in life. Face confusion squarely and try hard to solve these problems, and you may enter a higher level.
So, to some extent, your confusion is also a kind of wealth. People who are good at learning know how to make good use of every confusion, discover their own shortcomings from it, and improve them.
Since confusion can't be avoided, we might as well face it and let confusion become the driving force for our progress. Face every moment of confusion directly, figure out why you're confused, clarify what you want, and then strengthen your determination and blaze a trail in the fog through your own actions.
Be a bit more determined and work a bit harder. Don't be afraid of confusion, and don't lose your direction in confusion. Every confusion of yours is useful for your growth. Please make good use of it.
Source: People's Daily
https://tv.cctv.com/2018/09/03/ARTI2NhshKQ7bY0NRSZutJfp180903.shtml
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