Why men won’t change

I found an interesting article about “functional fixedness”. It describes a man who will never be motivated by his partner’s pain; he’s only motivated by his pain. Basically, the man avoids pain at all cost and endures the manageable discomfort from the relationship during conflict. He does this because it’s more uncomfortable and painful to make the change necessary to better his relationship. Spiritually, this is rooted in our selfish and sinful nature. This is why women can’t change a man.

You’re thinking, “How can I get my husband to be more sensitive?” while your husband is thinking, “How can I end this conversation that is causing me pain?” He doesn’t want your pain to stop; he wants his pain to stop. This is because his heart hasn’t been renewed.

He is a stranger to agape love. Putting someone else’s needs above his own doesn’t even occur to him because he does not have a sacrificial heart or mindset.