When people minimize your efforts

rant

First of all I don't intend to brag or anything in this post...I just became frustrated over time with people telling me how lucky I am for having a good job, a good partner, a good body, a good relationship with my family, a good mindset and so on. It's like I got everything from the damn sky and I didn't do anything to achieve it.

I had a really strange life. Toxic family, toxic partners, toxic environments. And I put efforts every damn day to evolve. Journaling, sport, therapy, auto discipline.

I am not eating any sugar, I do IF as a lifestyle, I also exercise 40 minutes every day and take 2 hours walks 3 times a week. I pay lots on skincare monthly and do it every morning and every evening, no matter how tired I am. But I am still lucky because I've got genetics. Right?

I got a good job because I worked my ass off for 5 years to achieve it and to secure it for lifetime. I don't have lots of expenses because I am in my mid 30's and I got no children, so I travel. Did I ever dream of having children? Of course. But it didn't happen. It doesn't mean I am lucky.

My partner is amazing. Best ever. But I found him after I circled around lots of toxic relationships and I did a lot of therapy to change the pattern. I learned what a healthy relationship means and how to manage it. Was it hard? Yes. I was not lucky and found my prince in a nice, sunny day of spring.

My family is very toxic, just like almost all families in my generation. Because our parents had no common sense and never cared about their behaviors's long effects on our mental health. Did I work hard to have a good and supportive relationship with them? To change them? To set my own boundaries? Every day. I wasn't lucky.

I do all of those for myself and for my well being, but tell me...where is this damn luck people are talking about? I am not looking for validation, but I am just fed up with people doing nothing to make their lives better and comparing themselves with my "luck", playing the less fortunate victim of the world. And those people never see the efforts I, and I am sure others, put in order to achieve growth.