3 weeks ago
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Ok so I know the title sounds REALLY sexist and I do NOT mean it to but really am not sure what to put.
The point is, as a guy, I've been supportive, encouraging, I don't do the whole "just let me solve it and we can be done with this" thing.
But what do you do when it's been actual years-and many of them-and the women you live with just keep coming to you and complaining about the same issues while saying how frustrated and overwhelmed they are?
There were some times I gave and give GENTLE advice in an encouraging way that was more empowering to the girl(s) I was talking to rather than coming across as judgmental or condescending because I figure hey, maybe something small might actually help? They don't have to take it but if they feel like it might help, it's there.
HOWEVER! I'm already overwhelmed with my own life and own struggles; I have shit mental health, plus insomnia, plus chronic health issues, not to mention I'm autistic and because of that, my nervous system is more sensitive to stressors.
I already spend my days feeling like garbage and to hear someone complain about the same stupid people at work or the same trivial shit when you're worried more about your own survival and physical well-being? Seriously!
What do you even do in this case? I've already explained how I feel but most people stuck in their own tar pit of problems are zombies and "hear" it but don't really hear or understand. Not that I expect that but at the same time, when I finally get sick of hearing about the same shit that DOESN'T compare, what am I supposed to do?
Can someone offer a different perspective on this?
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