people who spend the better year of your youth on what you think is important only to learn later it's not?

For eg.. you were sold the idea that you go through education, get a good job, find a SO, have kids, white picket fence and happier ever after? Maybe throw in internet validation, fame, money, owning a bunch of things and probably expecting a partner that has everything too, friends to be in the same income/career bracket, climbing the corporate ladder, etc

Then as you get older you realized none of that mattered.

You crave REAL friends (because you realized not many will stick around or its fickle), your parents got older so you want to spend and take care of them as much as possible, LOVE (someone who is kind, one who care for you when sick and listen to your problem, is an actual PARTNER) actually matter than all the superficial things you desire of a partner, that career you're chasing doesn't care about you, excess money doesn't fill the void, etc