Never been in a relationship at 31, what am I doing wrong? 👹 (advice & discussion)

I’m a 31(F) and I have never had anyone want to commit to me. I always have a lot on my plate so majority of the time being single doesn’t bother me. I sometimes use Hinge but then pause it again because I get bored. I’m never searching for men to talk to they find me and if I feel like there’s a connection there then we can get to know each other. So basically I’m not desperate for a relationship. But I think it’s when I start talking to someone who I really like and things just fail that I start to feel insecure.

Like am I ugly? I’m told often I should model, randomly I’m beautiful, I love your height, blah blah blah. Is it my personality? I’m laid back, funny, giving, intentional. I just don’t know what it is that makes men not want to invest in me. I have never had a man buy me flowers, a gift, or planned something special/thoughtful. & it’s sometimes hard to hear my bf say how a guy she’s been talking to for a short amount of time has sent her flowers on 2 occasions. Idt she knows that has never been the case for me, and I don’t want to voice it bc it’s embarrassing.

Recently I was talking to a guy for almost 2 months, the amount of things we had in common was crazy, we talked everyday but we recently stopped talking. He hasn’t replied to my texts, calls etc. I looked past many things w/ him bc I liked who he was. Him being a lot shorter, divorced, then engaged, 2 kids. I am first attracted to a person by how they communicate, so you could be the finest person but if your convo is not good it’s a task for me. (The new guy I’m talking to 😩😞)

The first time we met at his house (don’t tell me I know 🙄) he made dinner and we hung out. He acted as if I was asking him to buy me a car when I told him I want him to take me on a date. I told him this before, during and after we hung out. That time I got him wine & gift cards since it was Xmas, I told him he’s not intentional and he brought up the gift like it was an issue. As if me doing that was doing too much? It’s not an Armani suit, it’s wine it’s not that big of a deal! lol, I did say during our last convo that I was prob going to not talk to him as much bc he couldn’t take me out but I did eventually reach out and nothing from him 👻

Idk if bc I’m a planner I expect a planner as well so it’s frustrating. But I feel like you can’t like me that much if you can’t simply ask what I like, and plan something accordingly.

How should I move forward with guys and them meeting my expectations? I feel like sometimes I just go with the flow a lot bc I haven’t been in a relationship even when I don’t like how they’re moving. I also feel like some men see me as a fetish bc I’m tall but idk that’s kinda a random assumption I have.