My mental health affects my relationships, need advice

hello, (26f) here and would just like to dating tips really because I suffer with alot of mental health including; Aniexty, HDHD and borderline personailty disorder and thats not even everything. But it's not so good at all when it comes to dating and puts me off wanting to speak with men. It's so so weird because I have a lot of confidence in my self and the way I look but that doesn't mean my chat is so great. Like alot of men will try with me and I feel like I just turn them off when it comes to me trying to flirt and things like that. I wish I was more quick with my chat but I honestly find it so difficult and im getting to a point now where I wanna settle down and its scaring me now because I feel like im going to end up been alone. I just want to know also how to keep a conversation going and things like that. IDK, am I putting too much pressure on my self or what knowing what im like?? its so frustrated guys. Any tips would be soo soo helpful pls, I really need this because im so shit