Long distance is easy, if you know how to do it!

My partner and I have been doing long distance for a year and it’s been smooth sailing. Don’t get me wrong, do I miss them? Sure. Would I rather be next to them? Ofcourse but we have actually cracked the code on how to do this and I just wanna put this out there.

Date nights: We set Wednesday as our date nights. We are both working individuals and sure we miss date night but that’s very rare!! Most days we do something simple like watch a movie or Play games on Plato. Other dates we order clay and do clay dates or make bucket list ppts together. It’s reallyyyy funnnn!!!

Protocols & Scripts: Every time we have fights or disagreements we stick to a script that we have come up with. They need to cool down so they’re not rash or loud and I need to say everything I’m feeling. We have mutually decided that one of us will call a timeout and we will take 15-20 minutes after which I get to talk without interruptions followed by them. It’s made sure we’re not mean or insensitive.

Space: yes we love each other but even in love some days are just days you need to be. So we both have days wherein we tell each other that “hey can we talk tomorrow just one of those days” or “hey can we sit on call together and do our own thing”. We don’t need to tell each other that it’s not you anymore, it’s just an understanding now.

Constant communication & reassurance: instead of sending good morning we just send a good morning picture. It’s good to see each other and start the day. Instead of voice notes or texts we send whatsapp video notes (whenever possible). Seeing each other in action helps us stay connected. We also send each other going out pictures. And fit pics. (We’re both big on compliments too!!) On bad days or in not fun situations we reassure each other in however reassurance is required (we learnt this over time)

No judgement: of course you’re bound to get jealous or annoyed in long distance. It’s only human. Somedays I blabber and bitch about some person around my partner i dont like. Sometimes its a great friend of theirs. They still listen. Because they know that most of these feelings stem from how much I miss them and nothing else. Some times they are annoyed by how unresponsive I am being and they ramble on about it. And I listen too. (No verbal abusing ofc) just pure agitation.

Intimacy: We try clothes on for each other, we sleep next to each other and we always end our days with factime. They send me clothes of theirs to wear to bed. It’s a wonderful feeling truly.

P.S. It’s easy if you just spend enough time together and start to communicate in a calm manner!!!!