Is it really that mind-boggling that someone can be a virgin into their 30’s?

It’s strange that there are exemptions for so many things in life, and yet people are still so narrow-minded when it comes to sex and relationships. The same people that claim to be supportive of mental health, being different, bodily autonomy, etc. will lambast a dude if he’s an older virgin.

It’s really not that hard. Be an awkward and shy, with an embarrassing medical condition in high school, spend your early 20s dealing with a nervous breakdown and mental issues, then spend the rest working, convincing yourself it is what it is and that you don’t deserve love, and eventually getting a cat. I didn’t even have to be a misogynist. Plenty of people are quick to admit that a guy is expected to do the approaching. So literally all it takes is to be too shy to hit on women.

I eventually did end up losing mine two years ago, at 31. Until then though, I wouldn’t have been nearly as concerned if I didn’t think people might assume I’m a hateful incel. There’s so many reasons why someone can be inexperienced, so it sucks so many people go straight to the worst one. Honestly, I think there’d be less incels if male virginity wasn’t so detested. Naturally young men are going to be fixated on sex if it means they won’t be treated like an outcast any more.

So yeah, while things like being ugly and hateful certainly help, it’s really as simple as not really approaching many women romantically. Anyone can do it.