Is a fair and balanced monogamous relationship even possible anymore?

I’ve been wondering lately: is a truly fair and balanced monogamous relationship still possible? The idea of a partnership where both people put in the same level of effort, sacrifice, and responsibility seems like it’s slipping away. There's a comic that keeps coming to mind—the one where a man on one knee asks a woman if she’ll take on more responsibility while his life stays the same. It hits so close to home.

It feels like everywhere I look, I'm seeing relationships where one person quietly carries most of the load, while the other seems content to coast along. And now, with social media and dating apps, infidelity feels almost normalized. Cheating isn’t just a rare scandal anymore; it’s something people are exposed to daily, and it’s so easy to act on.

Is it still possible to find a relationship that’s truly equal, especially in a world where instant gratification and “options” seem to be everywhere? Or is modern dating forcing us into a version of relationships that’s fundamentally unfair?

I’d love to hear from people who feel they’ve found balance—or from anyone who’s jaded like me and wondering the same thing