4 weeks ago
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I truly believe if you really loved someone regardless of how it ended once you've healed you will want the best for them, you'll wish them healing.
Because at one point before it went to shit you did love them, unless you loved them for ego satisfaction/self identity validation, experience, loneliness etc.
If you loved them for who they were as a person, more importantly respected the type of person they were NOT what they contributed to your life or self then I believe no matter how it ended you will want them to find their peace. This was a person you loved at one point in time.
The person who you love may have ruined your guys' story together but they deserve healing to become a better person and find their peace as well. The part of you that loved this person deserves to honor that love as well.
But I believe our ego finds this weak to forgive someone who hurt us badly, instead we choose to make them a villain in our heads (even if they actually were to us)
In the long run by doing this we are just delaying our own healing and for what? Are our ego's that fragile? To heal is to be weak?
Only when we put our ego aside can we admit our pain, feel the unjust that was done to us, feel the ache, and let it go.
Though you may have treated me horribly and used me I did love and respect you at one point, for the part that loved you I want the best for you, I want you to heal, and I hope you find your peace.
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