I keep talking myself out of opportunities out of fear my present will be affected any tips? I’m not enjoying my present but too scared to change future?

I keep talking myself out of opportunities out of fear my present will be affected any tips? I’m not enjoying my present but too scared to change future?

I come on here a lot and whine about how I’m obese, and a virgin at 26M, how I took a paycut at a job for experience and so on.

Yet when I go to make changes I always stop myself.

I didn’t go to the gym and eat healthy till 2 weeks ago cause my brain kept telling me it’s too late.

Being an older virgin I may never get a chance to get to know a girl, but my mind is using that to stop me from finding ways to have any social interaction in a new city.

And MOST important, I am at a current full time job in healthcare where I took a paycut to gain skills. I have come across 2 major jobs that would truly elevate my career and offer better pay and overall be ideal. I am too scared to apply because I’m afraid they may call my current job and cost me everything. I’ve let 5 great jobs and 4 interviews go by me because of my fears to change my present.

Any tips? I’m not enjoying my present but too scared to change future?