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My family member injured themselves back in mid-2023 and suffered a herniated disk. They ended up getting treatment via private medical insurance and ended up getting better early last year.
The beginning of Feb 2025, their pain came back and gradually got worse. The pain was so bad they had to go to A and E and was given medication.
My mum ended up booking a GP appointment for them to get an MRI and blood tests.
I don't mind helping out but I feel as though I am starting to feel a bit of resentment where if my mum isn't at home to do the house chores or caretaking, it falls on me.
I woke up this morning and I felt really exhausted waking up to the same day. I spent a good hour or two, going out to buy groceries, cook, clean the house, clean my room, feed the cats etc. I don't go out or socialise with my 'friends' because I don't have any friends.
I am also actively looking for a job and I am worried that I would have to stay at home and do care-taking duties and not live my own life.
Even when the back pain was bad, I helped out my family member by giving them food, drinks, medication and washing their dishes. Anything where it required them not coming downstairs and straining their back or pain. Then after they gradually got a bit better, they started being a bit mean towards me. Saying rude things like 'I know you are glad that I am better so you don't have to do things for me'. Or getting mouthy and raising their voice towards me.
I am getting exhausted waking up to the same day everyday and it feels like added pressure ever since the back pain flare up. My mum works full-time and so does my family member (remote) and I am unemployed. I already volunteer with charities to help gain skills and I just finished an internship, now looking for paid jobs.
I feel trapped and there is no-one I can reach out to.
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