How do I manage my relationship with my in laws?

I had a baby 4 weeks ago. Since the hospital my in-laws have not talk to me or seen my daughter. My in law shave always been controlling. During dating, engagement, wedding, pregnancy, childbirth, eating habits, money spending, what to wear, and postpartum they have made everything about themselves. They guilt trip my husband by their old age my mother in law and father in law are in their 60s. Sister in law has left her husband for a year now and husband doesn’t wanna check on their kid. Since she has been back to her parent’s house she tries to micromanage my life. I experienced my concern with my husband many times, he would put up boundaries but he was not assertive enough and they would not care.

The second day at the hospital they came and my mother in law tired to take the baby out my hands, mind you it was in her arms the entire time I asked for her back to feed her. While she was leaving she was telling me on what to do bunch of stuff I was not really understanding because of language barrier. My husband spoke and said leave her alone, she said “don’t get involved” and he said you don’t get involved. A few days after she comes to our place to visit my mom because she came from Texas and my father in law forced her to see my mom. She did not come to see us, the entire time she would not talk to me and I was trying to make conversations. During the visits she tells my mom sorry I could come earlier they want me to call before visiting (they meaning my husband and I).

After a day or two my sister in laws texts me and she sends me this:

“Good morning I wanna see my princess, today my day off I wanna come see jenna but I know you guys doesn’t want nobody visit u and u guys not happy of our visit even he doesn’t respect me or his mother I can see from the hospital but even though if I come I will not bring Mohammad I will come alone 5 min if u don’t want even visit at home ok just let me know. Tell him! We only have one brother and only one brother wife, we never have problems and we respect u and you can see how we feel happy when u guys visit us. But if you guys are the opposite it’s ok But now I wanna see my princess since it’s my off day “

After this message my husband told me to block her but I did not.

After this my husband texts her and says stop trying to control and manipulate. Every time you come here you do not respect our boundaries. After all this and you go tell the two other sisters.

After a day my husband goes there because my father in law had an appointment. During the visit they fight my husband and say a lot of things. My husband’s still won’t tell me what they said. But over he decides that I don’t visit them and they don’t visit me.

Since then I have not heard from them but my husband still visits them and does the house work and fixes their cars. My husband told me he wants to take my daughter over there sometime when she is older just in case something happens to his parents he wants to see them. I do not feel comfortable with hopefully things will get better so I can do with her. I do want her to have a relationship with her grandparents, of course they love her even though they don’t like me I understand that. I have never had a problem with my father in law but he has not talk to me or seen me since a second day of the hospital.

All wanted for my husband to be more assertive and do it in. Respectful way. He believes that does not work with them. I’m hurt that he still does so much for them even though they don’t see me as their family. They are not forgiving even though I have never been disrespectful that I know of they still did not take care of my emotional wellbeing during my pregnancy or postpartum.

I am heart broken torn I live far away from my family I have no one her expect my husband and my newborn. I gave my dog an away two weeks ago because I could not take care of her. I try to go out when my husband is at his family but I feel a deep sense of loneliness.