2 weeks ago
13
I don’t really know what to call this, I also don’t know if anyone can relate I’m just here to tell you to be kind to your kids or to not have kids if you’re miserable.
Some point forms - I don’t tell my parents I love them because I never got that as a kid - my parents never tell me they love me - we never show affection - we’re not comfortable with it because it was never shown in our family - my dad wanted a son - he got 4 daughters instead and he makes them feel miserable every time he’s annoyed (he’s annoyed 95% of the time) - he hates on me for choosing to go to school and getting a degree over working at a farm and giving him my wage 🤡(this one gets me everytime) - oh did i mention he thinks his bad luck is because of his daughters?
That’s just some, here’s some stories
My father who is now 50 immigrated from the middle east to the western world about 10 years ago and ever since he became even worse of a father. I was 13 when we got here (country we live in now, I don’t want to be too detailed). And everytime he struggles financially he starts blaming me and my sisters and says that he wishes we never went to school (mind you he didn’t pay any of our tuitions and we (me and my other sis) decided to go to school to get educated and have something going on for ourselves) nobody supported us in any way lol. So yeah he says he wishes he didn’t let us and that he should’ve forced us to work at a farm and give him the money (crazy i know). Mind you I pay him $500 monthly…
He always wanted a son, he didn’t get one so guess what he hates his daughters for it lol. He isn’t a great husband nor a great father unfortunately. I obviously still love him, he has struggled to immigrate here and I appreciate everything my parents have done for us but they brought us to life, for them to blame us for any minor inconvenience is exhausting, I don’t even know how this has affected me I just know it has. I also can never bad mouth my parents so I keep it to myself or do things like come on reddit to tell my story.
On top of all of this me and my older sister we both go to school and work non stop and help him financially and at home. We literally do everything for him, from translation to application to work to every single thing - he’s NEVER happy with us!!!!! I’m so upset at this cuz I know so well some other parents who actually deserve kids would’ve loved me as their child :(
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