Hard lessons I had to learn for being too nice..

What I’ve learned in life is that you can be kind, but stand to my ground and say “NO”. As a child I was afraid to say no because I was afraid of how my there would react or get angry. Well I wasn’t afraid to say no all the time, but still. I’m saying no a lot better and stand firm. I’ve gotten better at it in the last couple of years. I got sick of people saying I’m nice, sweet and don’t believe l’ll get angry, fight back or whatever. Sick of being told, well some of my relatives being told by my dad and his girlfriend I can’t fight or set for myself which is embarrassing but it was my own fault for being too nice for my own damn good and being a coward. I’ve never been in a physical fight and I don’t want to, unless someone tries to attack me or put my life in danger then I will throw hands. Nobody believes that I would fight back because I let people do what they want and I’m way too easy going. I get so angry at myself for being this way and envy those who aren’t afraid of telling people off. I got sick of being the “nice” girl and being pushed around, being called weak. Being too nice won’t get you anywhere and people will take advantage of you. People will see you as weak, incapable and easy. If you want respect, speak up, stand up for yourself, have a damn backbone and let people know what’s bothering you. If you don’t like what they’re doing to you or disrespecting you, tell them! Don’t let them push you around. Being too nice is just useless. You will not get the respect you deserve if you’re a pushover. If you want the respect you deserve, be more assertive and stand up for yourself. Put your foot down when you need to. Still be kind. You don’t need to be nice 24/7. I rather be kind than nice. I’m not saying to be rude or nasty, just be kind but assertive. Just saying. That’s what I had to learn the hard way. Sometimes the hard way is the best way to learn. Being nice isn’t a bad thing, but don’t be too nice that people push you around or take advantage of you.