Feeling lost and alone

1 month ago 40

Hi all, just reaching out to tell my story and see if any of you can relate! I moved to a new city last autumn for a job that I love. My best friend lived 20 minutes away which helped and I moved feeling really hopeful! Within a week my health spiralled and I had a diagnostic laparoscopy that confirmed a chronic illness. After I recovered I signed up to dating apps as a way of meeting new people, and I ended up dating a guy for a couple of months. I made friends through him and it was a lot easier to settle into the new city. But it ended horribly, I had a health flare and he wasn’t there for me at all.I was cut up about it for weeks over the Christmas period as I got quite attached and I was hopeful about it. His friends cut me off too.

Now it’s January and I’m back and it feels like I’m starting again from scratch. I tried to treat this as a fresh start. I’ve been trying really hard to make new friends and be busy. I have a gym membership, I go to the office 3 times a week to socialise, and I’ve been working on my self esteem. But I’m still finding it all so hard. Some days I am still a bit hurt about the end of last year. My best friend got a new job 3 hours away and I’m so happy for her but missing her terribly, she was the only person I had here. Despite going out and socialising it’s very difficult to build meaningful connections/friendships in your 20s. I come home every day to an empty flat as I live alone. I’ve been crying a lot, I don’t know if things will get better or if I will actually start to feel at home here. I’m cross with myself for not bouncing back quicker, I don’t like how long it’s taking me to heal from everything health wise and mentally. It feels like I’m doing everything right and yet I’m still feeling so lonely and unsettled.

Please tell me it’ll get better! Thank you

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