Equal partnership

I just had a little conversation with my (39F) husband (33M) that I wanted to share to bring about some happy vibes in here! We got married just a few months ago and each have our own history of toxic/abusive relationships prior to meeting each other. When we met we had each worked through a lot of our baggage and came into it whole, not looking for our other half, but instead venning together as two equal whole singles.

I was sharing how in my younger years, I looked at my friends (two couples in particular that are still good friends of ours) and thought that the wife wore the pants. I was in a terrible relationship for seven years, treated like a proper 50s housewife, by my abusive alcoholic ex. From where I was it appeared that she must hold the power in their dynamic, she must wear the pants. My husband shared his own experience of letting things slide early on and having her (his ex) take advantage of that and walk all over him.

But I've finally figured it out after all these years - no one's wearing any pants in an equal partnership. That's how it's supposed to be! We share the load, sometimes taking a little extra if the other isn't up to it at the time, but always communicating with respect and love for the other.

TLDR: So we decided we're Pooh Bearing and Daffy Ducking in this house and I couldn't be more happy to have discovered this at long last!! Pants are overrated anyway!

[Side note: I'm aware these are both male characters, what female cartoon characters don't wear pants or a dress/skirt though?!]