Authors that handle writing opposite sex well

Before coming up for me and calling me woke, please read until end.

At some point in my life I realized that most men write women in such a way that;

A: They are either basically act, think and talk really masculine.

B: Lacking in personality and only there for men in the story.

C: Ideal women they want to be with

After coming up with this realization, I was reading Earthsea saga and I realized that in later books Ged also feels like a ideal men. Then I started to wonder are there any authors that can write opposite gender in a realistic way?

I especially would like to hear which male authors women think are well at writing women. But I appreciate it if men can point out to women authors that can write men well.