Anyone knows how to get rid of self-doubts and build motivation?

I feel so upset with myself like literally waste time doom scrolling and using phone instead of working on life. So many life goals are just in pending mode for years. Like I don't have a job and don't even attend classes lately but I'm not even actively working towards finding a solution. I did lil research online and applied few jobs here and there but didn't get any results so I felt overwhelmed leading to procrasnation and finally giving up. I realized I have no hope. Me imagining of having good life like my peers and cousins will never come true. Because I just don't have this hard working never give up mentality. I'm never consistent nor determined. Sometimes my family pushes me to get a job and even reminds me that if you continue wasting time doing nothing and living in fear and failure then you'll never reach success and life will become 10x harder.

When I observe society and how life is going, I'm realizing that everything becomes so competitive especially finding a good stable job, that perfect relationship and anything. It's like life is always about competition and I'm lacking that competitive mentality. Hate how I'm easily giving up and accepting defeat