Am i overreacting?

Am I Overreacting for Distancing Myself from a Friend?

I introduced two of my friends to each other—let’s call them Adale and Tami. Over time, Adale started badmouthing Tami to me, saying she was boastful, that she expected her to dress in more expensive clothes, and even that she had “the poorest husband” in our group. I found these comments weird and unnecessary, but I let them slide.

Fast forward to a conversation in our group chat, and Tami casually mentioned that she and Adale had gone on a movie date. I was shocked, considering all the nasty things Adale had said about her, but I kept my feelings to myself.

Later, Tami gave birth. Now, Adale and I are very close—we’re almost always together. But she never mentioned that she was planning to visit Tami. I only found out after she had already gone and come back. That struck me as odd, considering how she talks about Tami behind her back.

At this point, I’ve started pulling away from Adale. I don’t feel comfortable maintaining a friendship with someone who talks poorly about people but still hangs out with them. It makes me wonder what she says about me to others.

Am I overreacting for withdrawing from this friendship, or is my reaction justified?