AITA for not visiting my older bro?!?! He is my only silbing.

TL;DR: I was stuck in a foreign country with very low wages struggling to return to my home country for years. No one in my biological family, including my brother helped. When I returned finally on my own, now I am expected to visit and almost apologize (like I should have visited over the past years when I couldn't). And I let this time back pass without seeing my brother. AITA or just thoughts or advice.

I was financially stuck abroad trying to get back to my home country and no one helped me. My parents didn't help. My parents (who are abusers and part of the reason I was stuck in the first place) were trying to use this situation as leverage over me. Other relatives closed their doors, hung up, didn't respond to me. One relative seemed like he would provide something and we talked forever but he didn't ultimately provide help. I wrote my brother about needing a place to stay. He didn't provide one.

I was on no contact with my parents for a while. My brother said he didn't want to get in the middle of it, but he did get in the middle. He clearly sided with my parents. He wrote me sort of defending them and pushing out their fake story (I think my parents were bad-mouthing me and telling people I was choosing to be there so long, and just wouldn't visit, when in reality I was actually stuck and trying to return). My brother also said poverty is a choice. The country I was stuck in, is poor, and wages low. So I was not making a lot of money. Apparently that is me choosing poverty?

I'm being talked to like I'm this total loser bum, drug addict, user sort of thing. I don't do drugs. Always been law abiding. I've been independent and smart and sociable. It's so disgusting to be talked to in the way they have talked to me. I'm actually someone who moved out as a teenager, never asked my parents for rent money or to support me. I had to figure out funding my own post-secondary etc. But being stuck abroad, and I could use a bit of money to return, or a place to crash for a few months while I find a local job, as a way to return, I mean that doesn't make me some communist. Another relative lecturing me about how no one needs to help or something or how I have to figure out things myself.

The reason it was so hard financially to return is because I was stuck in a developing country where local wages there are super low. So it is NOT just a matter of saving for a few months and buying a flight and booking a place to rent. I got no help. I ended up being stuck for years. Completely life changing. Created a whole life there. My brother hardly wrote me.

Then I manage to come back on my own. Land in the airport alone. Go to a place immediately paying rent, before I have local work. I now have a job and a place in my home country, near my family. I saw my parents to confront them about some things and to visit. I wrote my brother throughout my time back. He never replied to what I wrote.

No one apologized for any specific actions. It all wants to be hush hush, put under the rug. I feel like by visiting my whole family it's accepting the fake story that I was just choosing to be away all this time, and just didn't bother to visit, because I'm a bad son, and bad brother, and I am the one that needs to apologize. It is ridiculous.

I put in a lot of effort. I guess I maybe expected them to care a bit more or do a bit more. So I dunno, for whatever reasons, I didn't end up visiting my brother while back. I never got any invitations by the way to things. I even wrote a relative asking about Christmas, and I was told I am actually not invited to that. It's like before I can do that, I need to walk up to them cap in hand apologizing for not visiting before or something.

So I'm set to leave the area soon, and in all this time back I never saw my brother. AITA?