a good partner won’t fix you

I (27f) have a great partner who I’m very in love with, and who, I feel, loves me unconditionally. He has a very secure attachment and he never made me feel insecure about me or our relantionship. But, on the other hand, I’m very anxious about everything, and very insecure about myself. He has helped me navigate certain vulnerable topics that I had never express with anyone else, and really supports me on my journey with myself. And yet, knowing and acknolowedging all of this, it’s still difficult for me sometimes to appreciate him how I should. Maybe this is a curveball from everything I said before in this post, but it’s like I don’t value him enough, just in specific times, because he actually likes me. Because he likes me! My partner! I feel like I valued more and even had in a pedestal past relationships just because they didn’t treat me right. Just because I feel like that’s what I deserve.

I just wanted to reinforce that: even if you are in a really good partnership, you do still have to work on yourself (in all forms, but I’m talking regarding self-steem specially, I guess). They won’t fix you if you don’t also make your part and try to, at least, like yourself!