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Hey guys. So I'm just gonna preface this by saying that I am a girl that has physical deformities. To keep things brief, I had a ton of surgeries over the years and my body is not typical. I have a facial anomaly that has gotten better but still is weird ig, and I have a strange figure due to other surgeries. I have a very VERY short torso compared to my limbs (my fingers almost touch my knees by a cm off or so) and I have long legs, but due to a spinal condition my back is also oddly shaped. Due to these features I have very long legs, but it doesn't look too much like it because I am also very short, about 4'5. These are some of the issues I struggle with physically. I can walk, I can do things, it's just unfortunately my medical condition affects me more physically appearance wise than anything else.
Why am I saying all this here? Because one of my biggest dreams, one of the few things I want as badly as I do is to find the love of my life. For as long as I could remember ever since I was a little girl, I always wanted to find my partner. It's one of the few things I so deeply want in this life. But as you can imagine I am quite insecure about myself due to my literal medical conditions. And before you say it's body dysmorphia or something, it's not. My doctors all mention my small trunk. My doctors all mentioned my abnormal deformities. It is unfortunately true.
Please dont tell me to love myself first. I know that and I am actually doing much better with that, I get ready in the mirror and all that. I am also in therapy for some of these issues so I am doing so much better, and thats not my issue. I feel ok in my own skin kind of. I just want someone else to somehow find what I have attractive, even if it's literally medically an issue.
What do I want from this? I want to hear other people's stories I guess. If anyone else knows people or they themselves are in a loving relationship with physical deformities please tell me. I want to hear your story and how it happened if you could share. I want to have hope again and I want to know that it is possible. It is one of my biggest dreams and life goals, to get married and be the wife to a loving amazing husband. Thats one of the few things I really want in this life, a few other things too but this is definitely probably my biggest desire. Please share any insights.
And before you ask in dms, no I will not provide photos of myself and no I will not show anything. Please post your comments here and your stories. I would love to hear them. Thank you all. I'm sorry for this long post.
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