why does trauma seem to bring out the best in some & the absolute the worst in others

somehow through pain & hardship , I’ve found the path that i aspire to walk to be more easier to visualize .. my goals never felt more clear cut than they do now post the enduring of pain .. almost as if it’s a virtue that must be had for true understanding..

why only when tragedy strikes things seem more clear , why does trauma seem to bring out the best in us at times but others it seems to be the catalyst for the failure that their lives become after the event .