The thing about shame is…

you don’t have to accept it. You don’t have to take on a basket of yucky feelings you don’t deserve. If you’ve cheated, stolen, injured yourself, “failed”, been promiscuous… that is your brain and body working their hardest to find anything at all to bring you a solution. Anything at all to feel connected, loved, seen, understood, alive and important. Every human wants to feel these things, regardless of whether or not their brain is seemingly betraying them.

Your relationship with yourself is the most valuable by far.

If you are already cruel to yourself and you try to punish yourself constantly, you won’t be able to understand when you’re being treated with disrespect. You’ll secretly welcome the shame and abuse coming from another person who is screaming from deep within themselves for care and understanding. You will find this person who hurts you constantly alluring. You will want to align with them, because the hurt they impart upon you is attention, and it can never, ever be worse than the hurt you impart upon yourself.

If you let yourself struggle and fuck up and live in your bed or mind or game or personal sanctuary, you should not feel ashamed.

If your parents shame you, wait. You will leave. If your friends shame you, find new ones. Or just be with yourself, your best friend. If your partner shames you, laugh in their face. They are so much weaker than you are. And then leave.

Read about a cabin in the woods. Create your own.

Be the love of your life.

If you can ignore the shame and just exist as you are, everything becomes a little softer.

No matter what.