People want more or less the same things when it comes to love. Yet where have we gone so wrong that we are collectively so out of alignment?

I know not everybody is the relationship type, some just want s3x, casual dating, others no commitment whatsoever, others wanna focus on work, others just wanna pass time etc … but more or less deep down we all seek love in some way shape or form whether we consciously admit it to ourselves or not … I don’t talk romantic love necessarily, but connection, acceptance, emotional comfort and embrace….

So if on average we all seek -to a greater or lesser extent- the same basic qualities such as love, loyalty, connection, bonding, dedication … why is it nowhere to be found? Why are people so unhappy, bitter and desperate? Why is there so much collective struggle to find someone decent who seeks what we seek? Why are they blaming the times or the generations or the way society is? If you truly have it in you then there MUST be people out there who have it in them too… if you exist what you seek also exists …

I know I may be asking a dumb question and that the obvious answers here could range from: “well, social media messed us up beyond repair”, but also that yeah even though we more or less all seek the same things not everybody is ready or honest/authentic enough with themselves to acknowledge their needs and thus provide x thing inside a relationship … like a fearful avoidant knows they want to be loved but would ruin their own relationship out of fear/overthinking and sabotage … Is it that having negative experiences from early on when it comes to dating turns your heart stone cold and you go cynical approaching any new relationship with a “hurt people hurt people” mentality?

I still believe that two genuine people with pure intentions could absolutely build something beautiful together, despite the world being rotten. I would like to hear some insights on this. I would like to hear some insights on this.