no one is coming to save you…or are they?

I feel like some people do get saved by others. Not even just temporarily helped as good people move in and out of your life. I feel like many people are able to avoid taking responsibility for their own success and happiness, and instead rely on others to fill their void. Maybe this isn’t even a bad approach to life, it’s effective. Maybe people who jump from one relationship to another are actually just good at leaning on other people for support and seeking connection.

I’m reflecting on my relationships and how codependent I’ve been, placing my partners needs way above my own. And with all of them, when our relationship ended they felt like I had saved them, while I didn’t feel the same at all. I’ve experienced beautiful companionship, but I’ve never experienced being “saved” or like someone truly had my back or was supportive of my success and challenges. Sometimes I feel like being strong, capable, goal drive, hurts more than helps in certain areas of life. But supposedly that just has to do with behavioral patterns that need to be broken to see change.