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My Nana passed away this week 🥺
she lived in Germany and I lived in England, the past few years ago, her husband got dementia, she was his full time carer so visiting was off the cards for me, she told me maybe when he goes in a home I can visit. I held onto this hope , eventually he did go into a home but then she got ill , I asked when can I visit and she kept saying maybe in the summer, last summer she postponed again, she had a operation. She basically kept postponing 🥺and saying next summer. I accepted this. She never told me what kind of C and how bad it was, she made it sound to me like recovery was likely. I also feel I had a skewed view of how old she actually was, as I hadn’t seen her in a long time , and the last time I seen her she was fit healthy and looked a lot younger. She was born in 1940. The last few months she was in and out of hospital, i regret a call off her I missed a month ago 😪 I wish I was able to have visited, now I’m thinking should I have just ignored her boundaries and turned up there? My uncle gave me the bad news that she’s in hospice. And I had no time left , she passed away yesterday🥺 I don’t know how I’m going to go on without her and the hope that I would see her again 🥺😪
TL;DR
Why didn’t she let me visit? She kept postponing and delaying and I chose to accept it (I didn’t know how bad the situation was, I was hoping for recovery) if I had known the truth , maybe I would have just went? I’m full of what ifs and regrets and confusion
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