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Apologies in advance if this is a bit long-winded (will have a TLDR).
This post is about my previous graduate school classmate turned coworker. I met this person a few years ago in grad school and was immediately very attracted to them. However, after I found out that she was in a relationship, I wanted to be respectful of that and keep the relationship essentially surface level.
However, as time went on, we got talked more and became close, so much so that many of our classmates thought we had a thing going on behind closed doors, and others were surprised to hear that she was in a relationship with someone else. She has always been flirtatious/touchy feely with me and sends me constant memes and reels on Instagram, which she says is her love language. I’ve always picked up on these signs that she might be interested in me, but have never known how to react.
Once we became coworkers and were around each other more often, things have picked up a bit, but I do get mixed signals. She still touches my arms and head a lot because she likes my hair, but has made comments along the lines of me being the “little brother of the office.”
Recently, she’s made two comments that have definitely thrown me off. A couple weeks ago when out for dinner with another coworker (who is a female), we were on the topic of how men usually have feelings for women they’re in platonic friendships with, prompting that coworker to ask “so there isn’t a single woman that you’re friends with that you wouldn’t have sex with”? Which the girl in question butted in and said “aw, (my name), I thought we were friends”?
The other day at work, I was hanging out in her office alone and made a mistake with my work, which made me say “fuck me” under my breath, to which she said “no thank you” in a joking manner. These comments may not seem like much, but they do make me think about how to navigate the situation moving forward.
In terms of her boyfriend, I’ve met him several times and really like the guy, although we don’t have much in common. I also have no interest in being a home wrecker. In short, I could use some advice based on whether or not I’m going crazy by thinking she is interested in me, and how I should act moving forward. I think by the time we stop being coworkers, I’d tell her how I really feel just to get it off my chest, but that’s not something I’m considering at the moment.
TLDR: grad classmate turned coworker/friend is in a relationship, but I think they’re romantically interested in me based off of actions and comments. Need advice on how to navigate the situation.
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