I spend most of my time reading about dating/self help and exercising (34M)

As an introvert that has only out of state friends, it’s tough to even try to meet a woman. I’ve fallen into a pattern of just ‘improving’ myself, heath wise and ideas, to find enough confidence to seek new friends. I can’t just do it, at this point. I spend my Friday and Saturday nights the same as my Mondays. Gym, eat, read, and go to bed. I’m obsessed with the knowledge gained. I’ve read some amazing material on dating, and including this, are books I disagree with - being player books. Nonetheless, it’s just a perspective and allows you to know what you truly believe.

There isn’t much to this habit. I’m hoping through this study and exercise (although I’m already in decent shape), I’ll just say ‘fuck it’ one day and join a meetup group or go to a bar. The last time I went out was with my mother for my birthday about 6mo ago. Otherwise, it’s me alone, trying to find the kernel of truth, that single gem of wisdom, which will allow me to try. I’ve learned a great deal, but still not enough to feel good about putting myself out there.

Do I just force myself? How is confidence gained organically?