Per the title, I’m F21 and work at a bank as an advisor. Lots of my older coworkers are just miserable and like to throw youngers under the bus. I try my best to have good relationships and I literally value work relationships so much as I wanna keep my reputation clean and be successful. Long story short, I’ll explain some situations just so you can understand how I regulate emotions and maybe there’s someone out there who feels the same and can give me some valuable advice. This one coworker he’s in his 50s and recently the printer I use all the time broke and I started using the printer pretty much everyone is using so what happened was I printed direct instead of using my key to print and he lost it on me saying don’t do this and I literally explained my computer is set this way I’d appreciate if you could show me I’l change it - he literally in the rudest tone ever says it’s not anybody’s job to help me and that I should call tech or help myself. I responded by “don’t talk to me like this” and “you’re so rude and angry right now I’m not going to respond to you” and he said that he will talk to me like this. I got very upset and went in a small corner where the broken printer is as it’s a private space and my branch manager was there (nicest person out there) and as he saw me he asked if I’m feeling better (cuz I’m a lil sick today) I responded in a low voice “I’m okay” I sounded pretty sad cuz I was, and he was like are you okay do you need to go home or talk to me and I literally bawled my eyes out - stating how upsetting the whole interaction was. And see I really don’t care about anything he said but the tone really triggers me and I get really upset cuz I never talk to anyone like this. This makes me so upset that I’m even sad talking about it right now. It’s more I feel embarrassed I cry about such things and I just wanna get over this phase, I don’t like being so sensitive and I’m such an empathetic person. People are so rude and I literally will let it go as long as they admit it. But I want to be firm and not allow anybody to speak to me like this. Do you think this is making me unlikeable?
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