How to find urself

24M just got broken up with after 3 years. I changed and tried so much for it that I feel like I become a diff person. In a good way I’d say. Before I was very much a fuck boy and said and did shit without really thinking. Then I met her and I knew I loved her from the start. I pursued and pursed her. During it I become feels weird saying but I really do think I become a kind of person that put myself in the back seat and cared about her more than myself, and even others.

I’ve always been brought up to care for others more than self. And now after all this, I’m starting to wonder how I am and who I want to be.

I’m sure you guys r thinking of you could be anything - be urself. I am asking how do u find urself. I feel Im struggling to juggle what my mom has always taught me (to be a kind person, even at the expense of urself, essentially compassion, I am Tibetan) and on the other hand, feeling like the world can just step over you when u are too kind.

Now I know u are going to say boundaries. I try but it just feels weird and a bit guilty doing it. I understand it takes repetition.

Sooo how do u find urself, be less caring what others think, and idk ig how to love/care for yourself? These I think r some questions im curious about. Pls feel free to give me any other advice for anything u think would help. I was very sad and now feeling a bit angry. I’m not much of an angry person, I can handle emotions well but I am starting not to recognize myself nor know who to look up to/become as a person like.