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Please, for yourself and others, learn to appreciate pain...an introspective
This is a short story, thought experiment, and philosophical introspective into the necessity of pain and loss. The following post is just a collection of my thoughts and acts as a representation of the lessons I have learned in my life and is by no means a statement of universal truth. Everyone has their own opinion, and everyone feels things in their own way, so with that, I hope this helps someone in need.
Life is often taken for granted. People don't learn to appreciate life until they understand how fragile it really is. Life is something that teaches about the necessity of extremes, yin and yang. These extremes make it possible to live in balance. The highest highs help make it possible to feel the lowest of lows, which in turn help us to truly cherish both, and learn, if we are lucky, to find this precious balance between the two.
It is my belief that life's balance is the love child born of opposite parents. They offer two different perspectives that on the surface seem simple enough to understand, but dig a bit deeper and you will learn why it is often far harder to find a balance between the Happiness and Pain
Happiness is the parent that life tends to favor. Because happiness is joy. Happiness is bliss. Happiness is love. Happiness is the parent of life that embodies all that is positive. It shows you all that is good. It spoils you, gives you more than you deserve, more than you deserve it. It does this because it wants life to be happy, it believes that it's beloved child, life, is perfect. Its love for its child is one in which it does all it can to protect it from all that is pain. But in doting on and spoiling its child, it only ever teaches life one thing, misery. Because life, if perfectly catered to according to happiness' wishes, would never learn to appreciate the value of anything. With nothing in which to offer comparison, the gifts that had been bestowed upon life by its loving parent had not been earned, thus, had no value or meaning. It is for this reason, that the only lesson that happiness could ever teach life, is to understand misery. Happiness could never understand anything other than what it knows itself to be. It is only one extreme. But life is balance, it could never understand the depth of only one extreme, thus could never be exactly like happiness, it's beloved parent. So if parented by happiness alone it would inevitably fly too close to the sun, and become the antithesis of the parent who has loved it so much.
But what is one extreme if not just the mirror image of another? After all, life is balance; A child that exists as the perfect split between two parents that are stuck as the perfect opposites to each other. As incompatible as they may seem, opposites attract. And life, as it exists as balance, needs both extremes. Happiness gave only the best to life, but as happiness is a true extreme, could never grow life's balance into a mirror image of itself.
But as we know, life is balance, a representation of 2 extremes. And it needs it's second parent equally as much as it does the other. And that second knows only the opposite of everything that happiness represents. The second parent is Pain. If happiness is the loving, caring parent, then Pain is the disciplinarian. Pain loves life just as much as Happiness does. Pain loves it's child and knows that Happiness is a parent that can't help but show nothing but love. But Pain knows a harsh truth, one that happiness is privileged not to know. You see Happiness and Pain are equal opposites,both raised by one parent. As each was raised by a single extreme, they learned only one lesson. These extremes, parenting alone, knew nothing of how to create balance and so grew these unbalanced children into the antithesis of themselves. As said before, Pain knows that Happiness is privileged to know nothing but positivity. But Pain also knows that positivity alone, would be a lesson taught only misery. Happiness can only create Pain. Pain knows misery, it is the embodiment of everything that is not Happiness. But in it's life, Pain knows that misery alone is an experience unworthy of its precious child. Pain knows that Happiness was taught nothing by its parent, a similar representation to itself, and thus knew that Happiness, through no fault of its own, was truly ignorant. Ignorance is bliss. But Pain's life is misery and knows that it does not want for its precious child.
So Pain teaches harsh, but necessary lessons to life. Pain knows that Life will not understand these lessons right away. Pain accepts that life might initially hate his harsh parent. But Happiness is ignorant and cannot possibly know what love is. It does as was done up on itself, thus shows Life the only thing it knows. But Pain is not ignorant. Pain was born, meant to be like life, meant to be balance, but shown only love by its parent, it learned only misery. But Pain has seen his parent live the same life as Happiness. But knowing only Happiness, Pain learned only the lesson that is misery, and became Pain. Pain teaches Life harsh lessons. These lessons are meant to scare Life, meant to sadden life, hurt life. He does not want to teach life these horrible lessons but knows that Happiness will give life the joy and good it needs so that Life can truly become balance. It is for this reason alone, that Pain is the only Parent who can teach Life the lessons most important to creating Balance. Life learns the lessons of Appreciation, understanding, sacrifice.
Life, being parented equally, learned much from both his parents, but upon accepting all lessons taught by them, he gained on trait passed on by its parent, Pain; wisdom. No Extreme had ever had wisdom before Pain, it was new, because in no way could an extreme be wise before Pain. Every other extreme that resembled Pain had been just Misery. Misery observed nothing of its parent and so wallowed in itself and created the reverse experience for its child dooming itself to create a neverending cycle of extremes.
But Pain was gifted wisdom, and in turn gifted this to Life. Pain so loved his child that he wanted nothing more than to turn Life into balance. It knew that if Life became embodied Balance, that it would end the Damned cycle of pure Extremes. Pain was all that was negative, but taught only good.
Life was Balance. Life, though he had always hated his parent Pain, learned to appreciate Pain. When learning lessons from Pain, he knew only negatives, he hated being away from Happiness. But life has realized that it had been taught nothing by happiness. He loved His caring parent, but knew now that if he focused on Happiness alone, he would never know to appreciate all that is good. It is through the love that his parent Pain gave him, that he could enjoy the gifts that Happiness provided.
You see, it is only through Pain that we can learn to appreciate the good in Life. Because Pain knew nothing but misery and wanted its child to appreciate the good so that it could never take Happiness for granted again.
I know this was long. I don't know why I felt compelled to write this but I felt that it was necessary to understand that as we grow, we should aim to live a balanced life. When we're young we take the gold times for granted. And as we get older and older we begin to experience our first bits of pain. If we can appreciate the pain for wha it teaches us, then we can learn to appreciate the Good times even more.
Just as you can't experience light without the existence of darkness
You can't truly experience happiness without learning to appreciate Pain
I hope this helped you in some way and thank you for reading❤️🖤
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