How do you maintain your friendships with other men?

There's a stereotype about men that we can go months, if not years, without talking to our dearest friends, then one day pick up the conversation like it was yesterday.

This definitely describes me. I speak to my best friend going on 16 years maybe 3-4 times a year. I still can't remember the name of his youngest kid who was born 3 years ago. But whenever we do talk, we're laughing and cutting up just like we did in high school.

But what I've realized, in some cases far too late, is that not all men are like this. I know, "duh". There are men out there that if you don't make at least some attempt to maintain that connection, chat with them every couple months, maybe see them every few years, they take it as a sign that you don't value their friendship.

Sad thing is, most men would never admit this, certainly not to each other. It makes us sound too needy.

So how do y'all do it? Reminder on your phone, post-it on the calendar? Or, if you're like me, do you think, "I'll miss this friendship but that level of contact just isn't who I am?"