3 weeks ago
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My closest friend is someone I’ve known since first grade. Our friendship has ebbed and flowed throughout the years, but recently as I’ve tried to make serious efforts towards improving my life, ending bad habits, and becoming the best version of myself that I can, I’ve found that this friend is increasingly becoming more and more of a negative influence on me.
For starters, they can’t hold down a job for more than a month. Their diet is very poor. They constantly beg me for money and never pay me back. They have health issues they can’t control, which I won’t blame them for, but their diet and lifestyle choices definitely make things worse for them. We used to have so much fun growing up but now, whenever we hang out all they ever do is complain and bring up how shitty their life is. It’s exhausting.
While I value our friendship, and obviously want to be supportive, I am starting to slowly distance myself from them. I’m afraid that if I continue associating with them and their friend group I’m gonna be stuck with those kinds of people for the rest of my life. I’m trying to meet newer people whose values and goals align with my own but it’s hard, particularly because for most of my childhood, this person has been my only true friend.
Am I doing the right thing here?
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