How can I achieve happiness that does not depend on my connection with other people

I have these stages in life where I just do my own thing for about 3 weeks, go to work, chill at home, workout, it's awesome because my happiness does not rely around other people. But then after those 3 weeks I feel the urgent need to over socialize with friends, family and what not. And I hate that because I am now depending on the interactions to dictate my happiness. Don't even get me started with girls, when I'm talking to a girl 30% of my mood and mental wellbeing depends on how good everything is going with her, it's fckn excruciating at times. I just wanna be happy by myself and give the world the finger, how can I stop those desires for socialization forever?