"Don't put women on pedestals treat them like equals"

How am I supposed to do that if I can't even get a single match on any dating app? I'm a 22 year old virgin and in four years of dating apps I haven't managed to get a single date I clearly don't fit into many women's standards for looks so I try make it up by being a extra nice but it appears an asshole with better looks can do whatever he likes? My main problem is how do I change this? How do I become less of me and more of an asshole that can appeal to women?