Creating a meaning Connection...

Hey, just a random thought—based on my experience, I might be wrong, but I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

Creating a meaningful connection with someone online is easy, whether it's on Reddit, Discord, or any other platform. I’ve built great connections with strangers purely based on personality. In the long run, it feels good because people appreciate how you talk and think, without judging you based on looks. Since platforms like Discord and Reddit allow anonymity, connections often form on a deeper level.

I’ve made a wonderful friend on Discord whom I eventually met in person. Now, another friend is coming to my city to meet some online friends, including me. I know the others as well, so we’re planning a meetup.

The part that’s bothering me is that, in my opinion, they are all good-looking people. They’ve seen me on Instagram, but as you know, those are the best pictures where I look cool—I’ve never used my webcam with them, but they have. I’m afraid they might judge me based on my looks.

The reason I feel this way is that, throughout my childhood, I was often called ugly by classmates and even random people. The most painful moment was when my grandmother said the same thing during an argument. Even though it was in anger, it broke me.

Now, I’m unsure what to do. Should I still go and meet them? Should I tell them in advance how I actually look so they don’t have any unrealistic expectations? Or should I just avoid the meetup altogether?

Would love to hear your advice.

Edit: I only have 3-4 real-life friends now. I used to have many, but I cut ties with them because they were toxic and they objectified women. They called me ugly also.