2 months ago
120
So I met this amazing and lovely Korean girl online. She initially messaged me and we started doing alot of zoom calls and texting. Things got really romantic really quick, before we even met in person she told me she couldn't get enough of me and that I might be the love of her life. She loved how "pure" I was.
Soon enough, she started having wild, sexual fantasies of me. And she asked when we meet in person, if I wanted to do sex. We both agreed to see how the in person meeting goes first.
Flashforward to when we meet, the chemistry is there for sure. We did have some naughty time in her car that night and made it official as boyfriend and girlfriend.
Things went so well for weeks... and then ir didn't.
She briefly mentioned she was bipolar to me, but I never saw any kind of irrational behavior from her.
I was taking a trip to Hershey Park with my parents and brother, and invited her along. She was so excited to go.
It took me awhile to try and find out what to do with her dog, since hershey doesn't allow dogs into their amusement park.
Eventually I found a Dog friendly Hotel. Things were going so well.
Up to this point, we were splitting finances and spending alot of each other. The hotel and trip expenses were going to get a but pricey, and we have only been going out for a month, so I asked if she wanted to contribute money at all for the hotel. I was fine totally paying fully my way, but figured I'd ask.
Then, she went nuclear. She hopped onto a zoom call with me and said several times that if I didn't pay full expenses she would break up with me. I started crying on the call and didn't know what to do. I had therapy right afterwards and my therapist mentioned it was ludicrous behavior what she was doing. She was trying to manipulate me and give me an ultimatum. I did not like that one bit.
So the next day, I broke up with her. I wished her the best, but I didn't want to be manipulated in a relationship.
She was absolutely destroyed. She tried to call me several times, and eventually we talked over text. She told me she never wanted to break up, she was just angry I didn't want to pay full price for hotel, and was testing me (apparently she was used to her boyfriends paying fully for trips and such in the past)
Ever since, we've tried our best to talk things out despite being separated. Since then, she admitted she was a little bit of a manipulative person, has severe mood swings, and extremely bipolar.
Should I give her another chance, or is her behavior too toxic to be involved with? I still don't like how she tried to manipulate me, but also I felt bad and apologized for the hotel finances incident.
There's also a few red flags with her: she has alot of credit card debt, has no friends, her exes say she's difficult to date (her Mom says she's difficult as well) and like I mentioned she also admitted she's a little manipulative.
But I can't help but feel bad for her because she's bipolar. I'm just not sure if this is a relationship I can try hard to make it work
[link] [comments]
