So I (f27) have recently started casually seeing this guy (m25) named Ryan. Ryan and I went to high school together he was in the grade below me. We were almost in the same friend group as one his guy friends and I dated for years (they were that close of friends just really in the same group). We really didn’t know each other that well though. We did talk sometimes casually and even hung out a few times but it was always super casual and tbh didn’t really hear from him much after highschool my ex and I broke up when I was 22 (we did date for a long time) and Ryan went away to college for a while. I noticed Ryan had moved back home about a year ago just from seeing his snap stories where he was at local places. (We live in Ohio)
About 3 weeks ago it was right after Christmas I think the weekend after new years I was just out having some fun with friends at a bar I saw Ryan there also with friends he came over and said hi to me and just he hasn’t seen me in forever. He seemed so different he’s so much more handsome he’s really tall and he’s got a nice groomed beard and he has beautiful hair. I found out he has a nice job in finance and had moved back home to be closer to his family since he works mostly remote. He told me his mom recently passed away (I legit almost cried when he told me the story) I told him I was a nanny (I still live with my mom). He asked me if I ever wanted to hangout and I said yeah. I was a little drunk and I was trying to go back to his place but he said he would rather hangout when we are sober which I can’t believe how sweet and a gentleman he was.
The following weekend he took me out to dinner a nice Italian place we then went back to his apartment and we did mushrooms together which was kinda wild I had never done them but he was really hyping them up to me and it was amazing we talked all night and laughed and really like opened up to each other and got to know each other and we ended up having the most insane , kinkiest and hands down best sex I’ve ever had in my life. Having a guy that takes great pride in you getting yours is an amazing feeling. I won’t get too in depth but ever since that I have replayed the night in my head over and over and over and over again.
Since that we had hung out a couple times we went to the movies. He had to go to Cleveland this week where his office is (we live in Cincinnati) and I haven’t got to see him much but he calls me every night. I really want to see him and be with him and with Valentine’s Day coming up I almost wanna just take control and say “what are we doing” or even make plans but I don’t wanna freak him out. What are your thoughts? Should I keep just going with the flow or should I take a little control and start trying to take the next step?
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