Am I the problem? Should I change to be more Liked/Accepted?

So I'm 30 and been alone for a while. I used to have a thriving social life and then it fell apart.

When I look over the course of my former friendships, I have had a lot of falling out with others and I feel like the only thing I've ever been guilty of is my reaction ( I can explode in anger sometimes, especially when I feel betrayed/judged) but at least I wasn't the one acting weird and fake and creating the conflict. I tell myself at least I'm a good friend.

And it's like I've gotten to the point where I've accepted I'm simply not everyone's cup of tea, and I'm okay with that. I'm loud, bubbly, I have strong thoughts and opinions, care free, I display a "I don't care what people think" attitude and I'm not afraid of confrontation like a lot of people are, so even though I've been wronged, I always end up looking like the "bad guy"

I tell myself I don't care, I love the way I am, even if its "too much" for most people, but is it right to be this way? Am I being immature and need to self-reflect and change my ways for the better? I know I need to work on my anger and self-control, but other than that, I tell myself I'm not the problem, they are for starting with me and I question why I always run into these situations. I question if I'm just too genuine for this world.

So am I right to accept myself, work on the things I know I need to work on liar anger and patience, and the right people will stay when the time is right.

Or is my personality as a whole the problem? Am I too much and I need to tone it down because I'm too much for people? I'm annoying and overbearing, but thinking about toning myself down, feels like making myself small, and it doesn't feel right or natural...like what is wrong with me? Am I the problem?